Sometimes Saying No Is Wisdom, Not Weakness. #HealthyBoundaries

Some friends, not friends, but colleagues did not know that my grandma had just died. And I was asked, hey, Stacy, can you talk to someone? Someone needs care. Are you able to, can I get them your number? Things like that. And I said, you know what? I'm going to say no, and this is why. And I said, my grandma literally just died two days ago. I am not in a space to be present for someone else. so and they appreciated that and said great going on to the next resource you know kind of thing and so now there's a time in my life years and years ago where i said yes to every opportunity and i didn't pause i didn't know i didn't know what boundaries were i didn't know what margin was i didn't know any of that and so if they were at that time i represent christ and if i couldn't be present for someone if i'm crying because i'm grieving or mourning outwardly expressing my grief while i'm trying to listen to someone else and say whoa that stacy whoever this person is who says she she can help me, she's not helping me. And that is, I would say that is maybe a kind of entry level to the potential of pain that we could impose or put on other people.